Last night I woke up to my heart pounding in my ears, my dark room spinning and my brain was in fight/flight mode. I began to have an anxiety attack.
Yesterday I let my boyfriend down in a multitude of ways. I disappointed him. Then I was going to stay the night but decided to go home instead. The whole drive home I regretted it because I saw in his face how sad he felt that I was leaving.
I cried and cried all the way home. Every exit I passed I regretted that I didn’t take it to turn around to go back to my love.
Once I got in bed I fell asleep immediately. A half hour later my brain jolted me awake by suffocating me with an anxiety attack. A racing heart and the feeling of impending doom.
My anxiety whispered so softly that I could barely hear it. It didn’t call me a failure. It didn’t call me a terrible girlfriend/person. It whispered, “why didn’t you stay?”
Over and over my feelings of regret had me tossing and turning from the evening into the morning. I still am recovering from this long anxiety attack.
In the morning I had to take anxiety medicine to help calm me down. I laid in bed wishing to be wrapped in his arms where I feel the most safe and loved. Sadly last night I made the dumb decision that I didn’t want to be cuddled in the morning. Oh Megan!
When I feel regret I usually feel it pretty intensely. I think it all goes back to how I wasn’t being my best self and already feeling guilty about the choices that I made yesterday.
After all of that I am really going to step up my game for him.
He needs me to support him in his recent job promotion which has come with a big shift switch.
He needs me to work on my anxious thoughts that tell me that everybody hates me. It hurts him when I lash out because of my anxiety. It hurts our relationship in many ways.
Yesterday I was saying how everybody hates me, his reply was, “Megan there is nothing wrong with you.” Writing that out brought me to tears. It means so much to hear the person I’m in love with say that about me despite seeing my every flaw.
He needs me to just be honest and be myself.
So that anxiety attack maybe was a strange, weird blessing because I am now able to see how I can improve and be better for my man.
I think the best thing to do with regret is to turn it into a motivator to make positive changes.
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I totally agree!
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